1. Is there something that you have given up on, and later regretted?

2. Is there a situation that you have been through that made you feel like quitting or giving up, but you stuck it out?

3. Why do you think we avoid pain in our culture? Where do you tend to avoid pain and difficulty?

4. What situations have deepened your character the most in life? Was pain or difficulty a part of that situation?

1. What is the most memorable gift you’ve ever received?

2. What is the most appreciated gift you’ve ever given?

3. Was there ever a time when someone really connected with you when you were under a lot of pressure?

4. What is the most sacrificial gift you’ve ever given or received?

5. When have you most felt the riches of God in your life?

1. What was the happiest time of your life? Did you have much or little, or somewhere in between?

2. What lessons have you learned from not having much?

3. What lessons have you learned from having more than you need?

4. When in your life have you really had to learn flexibility?

5. Have you ever had an “Aha!” moment in your life where a fresh insight really hit you?

1. Which of the qualities Paul tells us to meditate on in Philippians 4:8 is most important for you to remember?

2. Which of these qualities comes hardest for you?

3. What do you think of when you think of meditation?

4. Who did you follow growing up?

1. What kinds of things are high on your list of anxiety?

2. What relationships do you have that bring you joy and peace?

3. What relationships do you have, or used to have, that bring anxiety into your life? What could you do, or what could you have done, to bring a more healthy connection to that relationship?

4. Do you generally pray just to get God to do stuff or are you consciously looking for a personal connection with Him?

5. Is joy rare for you, or generally normal?

1. What are some of the things you’ve seen that have divided friends?

2. What are some of the things you’ve seen that have divided churches?

3. Who is the person in your life you appreciate, even though they are totally different than you?

4. What kinds of Christians do you have the hardest time feeling connected to them?

5. What’s something weird about you?

1. What were some moments in your life that felt really transcendent or other-worldly?

2. What in your life would you like to be remembered for?

3. If you knew you had one day left in your life, what would you do? Why aren’t you doing that today?

4. What are some of your transcendent goals?

1. When you were growing up, what messages were sent to you that made you feel like you were supposed to act like everyone else?

2. When have you felt most special and unique in your life?

3. What do you think most non-Christians think the typical Christian is like?

4. What have you discovered about yourself that makes you special?

1. What are some of the things that have defined your worth in your life?

2. Has religion ever made you feel hopeless or empty?

3. Has success ever left you jaded?

4. Was there ever a time when pain and loss brought you closer to Jesus?

1. What were the main rules you grew up with?

2. How can worship help cure self-righteousness?

3. What makes self-righteousness attractive to people?

4. Why does religion sometimes make people mean and angry? How can we guard against that?