1. What do you think Joab was afraid of, in forcing this reunion?

2. Why did David give in, but only partly?

3. Has there ever been a time in your life when you were pushed to go back to fix something? How did it work out?

4. Do you think time heals all wounds?

5. Has focusing on the past ever robbed you of the present and future?

1. Have you ever watched someone make poor choices and said nothing? Why?

2. Have you ever enabled someone to continue making bad choices?

3. What do you think was going through David’s mind when he heard about Amnon’s sin?

4. Why did Absalom care so much more about what happened to Tamar than David did?

5. Can you think of a question you can ask yourself to analyze whether you are enabling someone?

1. Have you ever had to pay for your sins long after you have confessed and been forgiven?

2. What do you think would be the ultimate result if confession always removed consequences?

3. Have you ever continued trying to compensate for your sin repeatedly and were still rebuffed?

4. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you just had to move on from a relationship because it was clear that it would never heal?

5. Who is most like Nathan in your life? (Someone who can tell you difficult truths in a sensitive way, and you really hear it.)

1. What do you think caused David to keep going from bad to worse?

2. Why do people so often keep piling up bad decisions?

3. What does it usually take for people to wake up and face their patterns of bad decisions?

4. Why do people tend to emphasize David’s adultery as such a big deal while treating his murder almost as an afterthought?

1. Has there ever been a time when someone took advantage of your kindness and vulnerability by shaming you?

2. Have you ever had a time when you thought somebody had your back but they let you down?

3. What are some of the biggest battles you face on a regular basis?

4. Who in your life has your back?

5. Has there ever been a time in your life when only Jesus had your back?

1.Can you describe your life’s calling in one or two sentences?

2.What are you doing to focus your time, energy and resources on your calling? What in your life needs to be minimized or eliminated in order for you to fulfill your calling?

3.Have you ever had something that you once thought was your territory but you have since realized it wasn’t?

4.In what sphere is your life most fulfilled?

5.What are your key partnerships in fulfilling your life’s calling?

1.Whose legacy are you? (Who came before you to help make you who you are?)

2.In what ways are you trying to leave a legacy?

3.Do we ever seem to value buildings above true legacy? Why do we do that?

4.If you could pass along one message for future generations what would it be? How are you passing that legacy along?

1.Have you ever made a decision that seemed like it wasn’t a big deal but it failed miserably?

2.Have you ever blamed God for something that was actually your fault?

3.In what ways are the methods of the world influencing the way we as Christians are doing things?

4.How central are prayer and God’s Word to your strategizing?

5.How has negativity robbed you of fruitfulness?

1.When did you discover your life’s calling, if you have?

2.What is home for you?

3.How often have you sought the Lord for specific strategy when making decisions?

4.What do you most need to work on- your calling, your home or your strategy?

1.Why was society so cruel back in the days of David? Is it more or less cruel today?

2.Have you ever battled with depression and just felt like staying in bed?

3.In what ways were you damaged when you were a kid and how do you deal with it today?

4.Why did David respect bad leaders?