1. What are some of the things you’ve seen that have divided friends?

2. What are some of the things you’ve seen that have divided churches?

3. Who is the person in your life you appreciate, even though they are totally different than you?

4. What kinds of Christians do you have the hardest time feeling connected to them?

5. What’s something weird about you?

1. What were some moments in your life that felt really transcendent or other-worldly?

2. What in your life would you like to be remembered for?

3. If you knew you had one day left in your life, what would you do? Why aren’t you doing that today?

4. What are some of your transcendent goals?

1. When you were growing up, what messages were sent to you that made you feel like you were supposed to act like everyone else?

2. When have you felt most special and unique in your life?

3. What do you think most non-Christians think the typical Christian is like?

4. What have you discovered about yourself that makes you special?

1. What are some of the things that have defined your worth in your life?

2. Has religion ever made you feel hopeless or empty?

3. Has success ever left you jaded?

4. Was there ever a time when pain and loss brought you closer to Jesus?

1. What were the main rules you grew up with?

2. How can worship help cure self-righteousness?

3. What makes self-righteousness attractive to people?

4. Why does religion sometimes make people mean and angry? How can we guard against that?

1. What comes to mind for you when you think of family?

2. Who have you worked with who you appreciate the most?

3. Who had your back when you were being attacked?

4. Who in your life would you want to speak at your funeral?

5. Who gives you joy when you see them?

1. Who was your best friend growing up? What drew you to that relationship?

2. What qualities do you most admire in people?

3. What qualities do you offer others in relationships?

4. What qualities do you most appreciate in Jesus?

5. What soulmate qualities do you need to work on in yourself?

1. What sayings do you remember your dad using a lot?

2. Why do you think work is so important for us?

3. What makes people complain?

4. Do you think the image of a typical Christian is someone who doesn’t complain?

5. What is the most joyful experience you remember with your dad?

1. Why do you think it was necessary for Jesus to “empty Himself?”

2. Has there ever been a time for you when you had to release your grip on something or someone? What did that feel like?

3. Who do you need to work harder to put yourself in their place more?

4. What sacrifices have you made in your life that have been totally worth it?

1. When in your life have you experienced what you might call “fulness of joy?

2. During the times you thought of in question 1, what were the relationships that contributed to your joy?

3. When do you feel most creative? How might those times contribute to fresh thinking about relationships?

4. How does the gospel inspire you to connect with others in a fresh way?